Comments on: Counter-Intuitivity (Pt 3) http://www.therandomist.com/mementomari/2008/08/counter-intuitivity-pt-3/ A reminder that you must eat marie biscuits! Mon, 01 Sep 2008 20:03:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: JohnDoe http://www.therandomist.com/mementomari/2008/08/counter-intuitivity-pt-3/comment-page-1/#comment-50 JohnDoe Mon, 01 Sep 2008 20:03:23 +0000 http://www.therandomist.com/mementomari/?p=19#comment-50 <blockquote><strong>"So it would probably be fair to say that none of us are the people we were 5 years ago"</strong></blockquote> Not really. With some people, it feels like they never change. But that doesn't mean you should put up with them or write them off. I think it would be pretty unfair to dismiss someone after one encounter (even though sometimes I have to really fight the urge to do so). Not sure about past faults though. Again, whatever you do, I would think your actions have to be considered.

“So it would probably be fair to say that none of us are the people we were 5 years ago”

Not really. With some people, it feels like they never change. But that doesn’t mean you should put up with them or write them off. I think it would be pretty unfair to dismiss someone after one encounter (even though sometimes I have to really fight the urge to do so).

Not sure about past faults though. Again, whatever you do, I would think your actions have to be considered.

]]> By: SJN http://www.therandomist.com/mementomari/2008/08/counter-intuitivity-pt-3/comment-page-1/#comment-49 SJN Mon, 01 Sep 2008 14:25:09 +0000 http://www.therandomist.com/mementomari/?p=19#comment-49 So it would probably be fair to say that none of us are the people we were 5 years ago, therefore it must surely be unfair to judge and approach relationships or interactions with anyone based on the people you knew them to be in the past? The problem I guess is working out at which point you no longer take a past fault into account. An extreme example: An issue from yesterday would certainly have an effect on how you interact with someone but something from their childhood not. Where do you draw the line? And is the line in different places for varying issues? S So it would probably be fair to say that none of us are the people we were 5 years ago, therefore it must surely be unfair to judge and approach relationships or interactions with anyone based on the people you knew them to be in the past?

The problem I guess is working out at which point you no longer take a past fault into account. An extreme example: An issue from yesterday would certainly have an effect on how you interact with someone but something from their childhood not. Where do you draw the line? And is the line in different places for varying issues?

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